Life Coach Larry Stephens Qualifications-Thirty years of experience working with a wide range of life problems. Motivational issues, self-anger, anger outbursts towards others, job and professional issues, chronic conflict with a co-worker or a family member. Anxiety and depression, problems with hope, problems with past trauma affecting one’s current level of hope. How problem frames keep us trapped. When we have a difficulty with some-thing we’re trying to do, we usually store the feeling of that as discouragement or despair. And that feeling is stored in the same place as our attempts to solve the problem. So every time we try to solve the problem the yucky feeling comes up again. We can spend so much time on old feelings that we have a hard time getting to solving the problem that is right before us.

A problem frame is a problem saturated way of looking at the issue that we are trying to solve. It’s like setting out for a walk and predicting all the holes in the sidewalk that are going to get in your way before you get to them. That can be a great way of being prepared, but it’s a terrible way of enjoying what you’re doing right now. Even as a way of being prepared it doesn’t work so well because it keeps us in a state of anxiety and fear. Another way a problem frame can slow us down is by keeping us focussed on old past feelings that essentially bog us down. What we need instead is the ability to look ahead to the outcomes that we want. We need to look ahead to the good feelings that we’ll have when the paper or project is finished or at least well on its way. When we focus on old feelings it’s like there is a part of our brain that can’t let go of the old situation. It’s almost like there is an obsessive compulsive part of our brain that insists on a total solution. That part of us insists on a solution even if it costs us big time. INTERVENTION: That is when we need something or someone outside of us to pull us out of our compulsive trancewhere we are stuck. FREE FIFTEEN MINUTE CONSULTATION—15 minutes can be enough to get a flavor of whether I might be of use to you or not—and if you need more time than that, just ask. 708-386-3422 We need to look ahead to the in-between good feelings that we’ll have as we finish each paragraph or topic or phone call or even each batch of dishes. Larry Stephens, LCSW 708 386-3422 Please call for a free 15 minute consultation Life Coach | What is Life Coaching | Psychotherapy | Spiritual Models Client Examples | Bio & Certifications | Further Reading | Contact

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Life Coach Larry Stephens offering Chicago area life coaching with both a phychotheraputic and spiritual orientation.